We can all look back and identify those moments that defined us, turning points throughout our lives where maybe choices were made, plans were mapped out, or revelations that came to us like “aha” moments where suddenly there is an epiphany and everything becomes clear. My revelation that I believed it was possible to find love again came during my best friend’s wedding.
My Love Revelation
Prior to this event (which would be pivotal in every decision I made that followed and ultimately lead me to my soulmate) I had dreamed of being a wife and having a husband, but I had been a single mom for seven years at that point, and hadn’t realized that I had been unconsciously telling myself no one will want to marry a single mom with two kids. I had unconsciously convinced myself of every excuse in the book of why it wasn’t possible for me to find real love and why I was most likely going to remain alone. Every day I thank God he showed me I was wrong. Those limiting beliefs I had were inaccurate. And every day I thank God for three things that happened at that wedding to let me know how wrong I was.
First, I have to tell you the bride was stunning. So when I say “the look” of course, yes, she was beautiful, her dress was incredible, but that’s not the look I’m talking about. It was the look she had when she looked at her groom. And the look he gave her back. It was mesmerizing. I mean, everyone there could see it. This was the look of real love. I had hoped and prayed for a husband, but I didn’t believe that there was someone out there that was meant just for me. Here she was, my gorgeous, smart, bestie and business partner, who I spent tons of time with, but never really saw that look they had – until that day, that moment when it hit me.
We’ve all been to weddings and heard the toasts, some great and inspirational, some drunk and scary, but this one… This one hit me like a punch to the gut, but in a good way. It was a toast to the happy couple by the groom’s father. And he was no softie. He is a giant of a man, a former NFL coach, and when he gave his toast he spoke so eloquently about his own wife, his true love, and how their love had only grown deeper after 47 years. I mean, just imagine it! Who wouldn’t want a man to say that about your marriage after all that time, the happiness and the struggles and the joys they must have gone through. It floored me.
If you’ve ever had one, you know that when a feeling like this hits you, it’s not something you can ignore. Maybe it was a combination of all that unfolded before my eyes that day. Maybe it was the champagne. But it didn’t matter, that feeling, that revelation came over me and I couldn’t ignore it. I felt a shift. I felt a belief that it was possible for me to find what they had. “I want that,” I said to myself. I wanted love. I wanted someone to say those things about me in 40-some years.
I wanted someone to spend time with, make plans with, share a family with. And it didn’t matter anymore why I thought I couldn’t or shouldn’t or wouldn’t. All that mattered was the feeling. The feeling that it was possible.
Are you being honest with yourself about what you want?
My mindset changed that day and I began working on myself so that I could prepare to find my true love. What is your current mindset when it comes to relationships? Are you being honest with yourself about what you want? Are you making excuses for why you can’t have what your heart truly desires? Are you ready to find love?
I’ve been there and I know what it felt like to be alone and to feel discouraged. Before having my ‘love revelation’ I had the desire, but I had disbelief so far down inside that I didn’t even know it was there. But all of that stopped the minute I saw these wonderful couples, the real love they had.
I believed it was possible for me too, I changed my focus on what exactly I wanted, I got to work on myself, and two and a half years later I met married my soulmate on the beach in Maui. And if I can do it, you can do it, too.