I love my Love Playlist because it helps me remember the possibilities of love. Most “love songs” are about sex and infatuation. That’s not love. That’s lust. It fades. I want forever love. I want to be like my grandparents, holding hands watching The Lawrence Welk Show at 80,000 decibels after 60 years together. That’s “some kind of love”. I believe it exists. I believe you can fall in love and stay madly in love for an entire lifetime. I’m only five years in to my forever love, and I know now that the kind of love that my grandparents had wasn’t just luck. They made their marriage their first priority. I’m sure they had fights and bad days, but their number one priority was taking care of each other. The only way to have a great marriage is to put effort into it every day. My Friend Nancy’s wise mom said that it’s work to have either a great marriage or a bad marriage, so you might as well put in the work to have a great one! I have to remember that on the days I don’t feel good or days I am stressed about getting all my work done, and I don’t want to put in any effort into my marriage. I find a dumb reason to be a grumpy butt and do what I need to get done, and some days I don’t want to care about what anyone else needs. Some days it’s super easy to be a great wife and take care of John. It’s the teeny tiny things you do on a consistent basis that add up continuously and keep a marriage strong. I know that it’s not the big things that matter…the amazing vacation on the beach for a week. Anyone can get along and rekindle romance on vacation with no work and no kids. It’s about doing little things for each other every day during the day-to-day mundane busy life that matters. It’s about rekindling romance every chance you get even though the kids need something and you have deadlines to meet. It’s about setting those things aside even for a few moments and making each other the priority. I write about things that I struggle with so I can remind myself to do better! Do the little things every day that matter. When I do, everything in our lives is better and I feel happier and more fulfilled. I also listen to music with lyrics like these to remind myself that love like this exists if you continue to work at it and make each other feel special every day.
When I’m old and grown I won’t sleep alone, woah Every single moment will be fading into you That’s some type of love
That’s some type of love
And I won’t sing the blues ‘Cause all I need is you, woah Every single question will be answered all by you That’s some type of love That’s some type of love
When the world’s on fire we won’t even move There is no reason if I’m here with you And when it’s said and done I’ll give me to you That’s some type of love That’s some type of love
When we’re old and gray And our faces changed There won’t be a moment when my heart don’t feel the same
That’s some type of love That’s some type of love
And every story ends But we could still pretend Every single moment will be just as we had planned It was some type of love That’s some type of love
When the world’s on fire we won’t even move There is no reason if I’m here with you
And when it’s said and done I’ll give me to you That’s some type of love That’s some type of love
If I’m here with you I’ll give me to you baby That’s some type of love That’s some type of love
When the world’s on fire we won’t even move There is no reason if I’m here with you And when it’s said and done I’ll give me to you That’s some type of love
That’s some type of love
I listened to music with lyrics like these (this song hadn’t come out yet. I just added it) when I was single and frustrated. I had times when I didn’t think real love like this was possible for me, and I was just going to be single forever. But My Love Playlist reminded me that forever love does exist, it’s not just romance and infatuation. It’s real love. When you’re single, it takes work and commitment to become the person you want to be so you can attract a great man who loves you and cherishes you. And when you attract him, you never stop working at it so you can have a great relationship 50 years from now. Follow my Love Playlist on Spotify for the entire playlist and add to it if you have some other great songs to share!
And don’t forget to sign up for my newsletter for weekly tips, strategies and inspiration for finding “some kind of love”!
Wishing you lots of love and a 50th anniversary party!