When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
I realized I wasn’t going to attract an amazing partner unless I felt the same way about myself. So I asked myself, “Why don’t I feel good about myself?” and I made a list of all the things I wanted to improve in six key areas of my life: family, relationships, health, finances, and home. I made small quantifiable goals in each area and worked toward them a little bit each day. I called this My BOSS List.
While I was working toward these goals, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a partner in the notes on my phone. And I revisited it daily — refining, editing, and adding to it as I realized more about myself from the “teachers” in my life. That’s right, your ex’s are your BEST teachers.
My Boss List and My Soulmate List kept me focused on who I needed to BE to attract the life I wanted. Then one day I went to see a business client of mine, John Stanley, and he saw me differently. Because, I WAS DIFFERENT.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui. If I finally attracted the life I always wanted (including Mr. Right) using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on inspirational how-to’s, a little hope and a whole lotta love love.
I tend to overdo things. I'm from Texas, after all, where we say, "It ain't done 'till it's OVERDONE." In my typical, "overdo everything" way, I overwhelm myself. New diet. New routine. New schedule. Take on more. Then take on more again.
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I wasn't taking care of myself - like - AT ALL. Just DOING more. TAKING ON more. STRESSING more.
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Can I get an amen?!
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That's when I decided to stop, and I made the commitment to carve out 15 minutes first thing in the morning to take care of ME. 15 minutes to fuel up. 15 minutes to show the world - and my future love - I matter. I am cared for. I am loved.
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And I started with gratitude, which is why I love this quote. 💕 I'd love to know what you're grateful for today and how that's bringing more joy to your life.
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Almost got three strikes in a row.💪💪 but didn’t. 🤦♀️🤦♀️I love my family. What an awesome day. Gym, breakfast, pedicures, bowling. Such a lucky girl:🥰🙌🎊🎉😘
My mama had ELEVEN children. She turns 80 next week. She was pregnant and nursing for 26 years straight. She is my idol and the champion of all champions. Every day I try to live up to her example. I don’t have any recent pics because she moved to Utah a couple years ago. I need to get on that! I love you mama and all mamas.
And single mamas, I see you. Sending love and hugs, and I hope you sent yourself flowers and chocolate and are doing something to celebrate how hard you work! ❤️❤️
This Sunday is all about us, fellow mommas! But when you're a SINGLE momma, holidays can be hard. Even the ones that celebrate ... us.
When our kiddos get too old to shower us with adorable school-made crafts, or even pause to say 'thank you,' holidays can feel empty.
But I'm convinced we can still find gratitude and joy on Mother's Day. And it has nothing to do with anyone else. True love starts in the mirror. It's looking right at us! When we shift our perspective, we can change our life. It worked for me. And I'd love to know how it's working for you!
P.S. latest blog link in bio 👆🏻
#mothersday #becomingmrsstanley #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply
What questions do you have about the soul mate list? It’s the topic I get asked about the most. I’ll be doing a live webinar soon and we’ll talk allllll about it, what it is, why would I do it, what are you talking about, all the things!!! So please put your questions in the comments or send me a DM! Have an awesome day! ❤️❤️
Have you seen the video of Jill and Kevin's Big Day? (I know, who are Jill and Kevin?)
Well, when I was single, I watched this video over and over and over again. Here's the high-level recap: on their wedding day, they surprised the entire congregation and DANCED down the aisle to the song, "Forever" by @chrisbrownofficial. EVEN THE BRIDE! It was a choreographed 5 minutes of wedding genius!
And every time I watched that video, I thought to myself, "One day I'm going to get married again, and my groom is going to be silly and fun and adventurous and not care what anyone else thinks about it!"
I'm a firm believer that the messages we put into our minds become our outputs. If we're listening to negative lyrics around negative people constantly talking about negative subjects, we're going to be negative people attracting other negative people. I did it.
But the opposite is also true. And that's why I've created #myloveplaylist (link in bio 👆🏻 - including the Jill and Kevin video) and why "Forever" is on it. My playlist is a collection of songs with lyrics that reinforce the POSITIVE life I want... including finding a husband that throws all tradition out the window and takes some time to laugh.
I'd love to know what songs are on your "life-you-want" playlist. I'll probably add them to mine!
#becomingmrsstanley #myloveplaylist #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply
I tend to overdo things. I'm from Texas, after all, where we say, "It ain't done 'till it's OVERDONE." In my typical, "overdo everything" way, I overwhelm myself. New diet. New routine. New schedule. Take on more. Then take on more again.
-
I wasn't taking care of myself - like - AT ALL. Just DOING more. TAKING ON more. STRESSING more.
-
Can I get an amen?!
-
That's when I decided to stop, and I made the commitment to carve out 15 minutes first thing in the morning to take care of ME. 15 minutes to fuel up. 15 minutes to show the world - and my future love - I matter. I am cared for. I am loved.
-
And I started with gratitude, which is why I love this quote. 💕 I'd love to know what you're grateful for today and how that's bringing more joy to your life.
motivationmonday #gratitude #becomingmrsstanley #myloveplaylist #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply
Almost got three strikes in a row.💪💪 but didn’t. 🤦♀️🤦♀️I love my family. What an awesome day. Gym, breakfast, pedicures, bowling. Such a lucky girl:🥰🙌🎊🎉😘
My mama had ELEVEN children. She turns 80 next week. She was pregnant and nursing for 26 years straight. She is my idol and the champion of all champions. Every day I try to live up to her example. I don’t have any recent pics because she moved to Utah a couple years ago. I need to get on that! I love you mama and all mamas.
And single mamas, I see you. Sending love and hugs, and I hope you sent yourself flowers and chocolate and are doing something to celebrate how hard you work! ❤️❤️
This Sunday is all about us, fellow mommas! But when you're a SINGLE momma, holidays can be hard. Even the ones that celebrate ... us.
When our kiddos get too old to shower us with adorable school-made crafts, or even pause to say 'thank you,' holidays can feel empty.
But I'm convinced we can still find gratitude and joy on Mother's Day. And it has nothing to do with anyone else. True love starts in the mirror. It's looking right at us! When we shift our perspective, we can change our life. It worked for me. And I'd love to know how it's working for you!
P.S. latest blog link in bio 👆🏻
#mothersday #becomingmrsstanley #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply
What questions do you have about the soul mate list? It’s the topic I get asked about the most. I’ll be doing a live webinar soon and we’ll talk allllll about it, what it is, why would I do it, what are you talking about, all the things!!! So please put your questions in the comments or send me a DM! Have an awesome day! ❤️❤️
Have you seen the video of Jill and Kevin's Big Day? (I know, who are Jill and Kevin?)
Well, when I was single, I watched this video over and over and over again. Here's the high-level recap: on their wedding day, they surprised the entire congregation and DANCED down the aisle to the song, "Forever" by @chrisbrownofficial. EVEN THE BRIDE! It was a choreographed 5 minutes of wedding genius!
And every time I watched that video, I thought to myself, "One day I'm going to get married again, and my groom is going to be silly and fun and adventurous and not care what anyone else thinks about it!"
I'm a firm believer that the messages we put into our minds become our outputs. If we're listening to negative lyrics around negative people constantly talking about negative subjects, we're going to be negative people attracting other negative people. I did it.
But the opposite is also true. And that's why I've created #myloveplaylist (link in bio 👆🏻 - including the Jill and Kevin video) and why "Forever" is on it. My playlist is a collection of songs with lyrics that reinforce the POSITIVE life I want... including finding a husband that throws all tradition out the window and takes some time to laugh.
I'd love to know what songs are on your "life-you-want" playlist. I'll probably add them to mine!
#becomingmrsstanley #myloveplaylist #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply
