When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
I realized I wasn’t going to attract an amazing partner unless I felt the same way about myself. So I asked myself, “Why don’t I feel good about myself?” and I made a list of all the things I wanted to improve in six key areas of my life: family, relationships, health, finances, and home. I made small quantifiable goals in each area and worked toward them a little bit each day. I called this My BOSS List.
While I was working toward these goals, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a partner in the notes on my phone. And I revisited it daily — refining, editing, and adding to it as I realized more about myself from the “teachers” in my life. That’s right, your ex’s are your BEST teachers.
My Boss List and My Soulmate List kept me focused on who I needed to BE to attract the life I wanted. Then one day I went to see a business client of mine, John Stanley, and he saw me differently. Because, I WAS DIFFERENT.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui. If I finally attracted the life I always wanted (including Mr. Right) using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on inspirational how-to’s, a little hope and a whole lotta love love.
It's Husband Appreciation Day. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ Where do I begin?
I guess I'll start with my #LoveLanguage. It's Acts of Service. Fellow #singlemoms, you get it. We have more to do than time to do it. Things fall through the cracks.
John takes EVERYTHING off my plate. My car needs gas, John does it. The dry cleaning needs picked up, John does it. The sink is fully of dirty dishes, not on John's watch! He picks up dinner, is a grill master, and constantly does anything he can to make my life easier.
But it's not by accident. These qualities were on my #SoulmateList. When I visualized the husband I wanted to appreciate today, I envisioned one who spoke my love language. And you can too! Visualize the love you want, write it down, and don't settle for anything less.
#husbandappreciationday #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
Date night with this hot stud 💕
After my divorce, I spent six years as the sad, sob-story, single. I would get together with any of my girlfriends who would listen, and I'd bash my ex. He was always the bad guy; I was always the victim.
But then it hit me, as I watched my best friend find - and marry - the man of her dreams: If I wanted to attract awesome, I had to BE awesome.
And that's when the real work began. Including recognizing that my ex wasn't the bad guy. We created two beautiful children together, and, if I was honest, he taught me a lot. In fact, my ex is my GREATEST teacher. When I reconciled that we came together for a reason, for a season, it was liberating.
All of the men I've ever known have also been teachers. Teaching me what I wanted AND what I didn't want. I just needed to stop and pay attention.
This realization helped me take responsibility for my personal growth. Focus on the lessons learned. Create the version of myself that I love. And attract the man of my dreams.
Tell me, if you're being honest, what have you learned from your ex?
(And check out my latest blog post. Link in bio 👆🏻)
#createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #reinventyourself
Lessons are like a lazy river. They can come into our lives over, and over, and OVER again until we FINALLY learn from them!
Let's just say, I had to learn some lessons the hard way. They had to circle back a few thousand times.
But that's the beauty of life lessons. Sometimes we get them once, we learn, and we change our beliefs or our behavior.
Other times, we need more "teachers" to show us the same lesson one more time before we get it ... there it is ... coming around the same turn yet again.
Lessons, lazy rivers and looking in the mirror are just some of the AHA! moments I recently discussed with @robinquinnkeehn on her podcast #LiberatedLife.
Link in bio☝🏻 for the full podcast, and then let me know what lessons have been on YOUR lazy river.
#lifelessons #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
Your ex is your greatest teacher. Did you know there was a National Ex-Spouse Day? Weird. Why in the world would we celebrate our ex-spouse? A million reasons. I’m not celebrating divorce. It was awful and really traumatic for all of us. But we *can* celebrate all the good that came out of it and all the lessons we learned. I can celebrate that he gave me two kids and two bonus kids. And so many experiences that shaped who I am today.
"Every person in your life is teaching you something if you wake up and pay attention to the lessons." In my book I talk about how focusing on the lessons changed my life. Everyone we have ever dated was a teacher.
Everything makes us either bitter or better. So celebrate it! Every experience with your ex was a gift. You learned. You are different now. Maybe you learned some things you didn’t want but you also learned what you *did* want.
What have your ex-teachers taught you?
#winningwednesday #wednesdaywisdom #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
Picture this, you're in the country, lying on some freshly-cut grass next to the love of your life, staring up at the sky at dusk. Suddenly, FIREFLIES! We don't see them often, but when we do, it seems ... almost magical.
I love to visualize myself where I want to be. And who doesn't want to be snuggled up to their love watching fireflies dance across the sky?!
That's why "Fireflies" by Owl City made My Love Playlist (❤️ link in bio ❤️ ). Visualize what you want, and then go out and get it!
https://mrskarenstanley.com/sign-your-name-by-sananda-maitreya-my-love-playlist/
And please share the songs that help YOU to visualize the future YOU want!
#becomingmrsstanley #myloveplaylist #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply #aretesyndicate
It's Husband Appreciation Day. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ Where do I begin?
I guess I'll start with my #LoveLanguage. It's Acts of Service. Fellow #singlemoms, you get it. We have more to do than time to do it. Things fall through the cracks.
John takes EVERYTHING off my plate. My car needs gas, John does it. The dry cleaning needs picked up, John does it. The sink is fully of dirty dishes, not on John's watch! He picks up dinner, is a grill master, and constantly does anything he can to make my life easier.
But it's not by accident. These qualities were on my #SoulmateList. When I visualized the husband I wanted to appreciate today, I envisioned one who spoke my love language. And you can too! Visualize the love you want, write it down, and don't settle for anything less.
#husbandappreciationday #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
Date night with this hot stud 💕
After my divorce, I spent six years as the sad, sob-story, single. I would get together with any of my girlfriends who would listen, and I'd bash my ex. He was always the bad guy; I was always the victim.
But then it hit me, as I watched my best friend find - and marry - the man of her dreams: If I wanted to attract awesome, I had to BE awesome.
And that's when the real work began. Including recognizing that my ex wasn't the bad guy. We created two beautiful children together, and, if I was honest, he taught me a lot. In fact, my ex is my GREATEST teacher. When I reconciled that we came together for a reason, for a season, it was liberating.
All of the men I've ever known have also been teachers. Teaching me what I wanted AND what I didn't want. I just needed to stop and pay attention.
This realization helped me take responsibility for my personal growth. Focus on the lessons learned. Create the version of myself that I love. And attract the man of my dreams.
Tell me, if you're being honest, what have you learned from your ex?
(And check out my latest blog post. Link in bio 👆🏻)
#createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #reinventyourself
Lessons are like a lazy river. They can come into our lives over, and over, and OVER again until we FINALLY learn from them!
Let's just say, I had to learn some lessons the hard way. They had to circle back a few thousand times.
But that's the beauty of life lessons. Sometimes we get them once, we learn, and we change our beliefs or our behavior.
Other times, we need more "teachers" to show us the same lesson one more time before we get it ... there it is ... coming around the same turn yet again.
Lessons, lazy rivers and looking in the mirror are just some of the AHA! moments I recently discussed with @robinquinnkeehn on her podcast #LiberatedLife.
Link in bio☝🏻 for the full podcast, and then let me know what lessons have been on YOUR lazy river.
#lifelessons #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
Your ex is your greatest teacher. Did you know there was a National Ex-Spouse Day? Weird. Why in the world would we celebrate our ex-spouse? A million reasons. I’m not celebrating divorce. It was awful and really traumatic for all of us. But we *can* celebrate all the good that came out of it and all the lessons we learned. I can celebrate that he gave me two kids and two bonus kids. And so many experiences that shaped who I am today.
"Every person in your life is teaching you something if you wake up and pay attention to the lessons." In my book I talk about how focusing on the lessons changed my life. Everyone we have ever dated was a teacher.
Everything makes us either bitter or better. So celebrate it! Every experience with your ex was a gift. You learned. You are different now. Maybe you learned some things you didn’t want but you also learned what you *did* want.
What have your ex-teachers taught you?
#winningwednesday #wednesdaywisdom #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
Picture this, you're in the country, lying on some freshly-cut grass next to the love of your life, staring up at the sky at dusk. Suddenly, FIREFLIES! We don't see them often, but when we do, it seems ... almost magical.
I love to visualize myself where I want to be. And who doesn't want to be snuggled up to their love watching fireflies dance across the sky?!
That's why "Fireflies" by Owl City made My Love Playlist (❤️ link in bio ❤️ ). Visualize what you want, and then go out and get it!
https://mrskarenstanley.com/sign-your-name-by-sananda-maitreya-my-love-playlist/
And please share the songs that help YOU to visualize the future YOU want!
#becomingmrsstanley #myloveplaylist #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply #aretesyndicate
