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Everyone who hears the story of finding true love tells us it gives them hope. They tell us we need to tell more people our story, people who might think it’s too late to find love. That’s why I created this website, started a blog, and wrote Becoming Mrs. Stanley. For many years, I wanted it, but I didn’t really believe it was possible. Now, I want every single person out there looking for a long-term relationship to know that you CAN find true love! Amazing, wonderful, kind, caring, compassionate, successful, single people of all ages DO EXIST, and I believe everyone can find love again.

When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world. 

I’m an entrepreneur, former single mom, professional Mezzo-Soprano, yogi, hiker, Amazon addict, laugh-way-too-loud-er, and I’ve spent over 2 decades in marketing. For many years, I attracted men (teachers) who didn’t want what I wanted. I knew intellectually that if you want to find true love, you needed to become the person you wanted to be, but I had a hard time staying on track. So I created systems to help me do just that. When I realized that some of the methods I used to helped me and finally attract Mr. Right were strategies, I started writing my book, Becoming Mrs. Stanley, and now I’m a published author!

Even though being a single mom raising two children was challenging, I cherish every moment of those years when it was just the three of us. I had almost given up on finding true love, and for two years I didn’t date and had no interest in finding love again. I worked hard and spent time with my little buddies. During that time, we went on many fun road trips visiting sisters and cousins and created great memories we’ll never forget! Here’s my three-pack in 2010 at Yellowstone National Park.

Even though being a single mom raising two children was challenging, I cherish every moment of those years when it was just the three of us. I had almost given up on manifesting my soulmate, and for two years I didn’t date and had no interest in finding love again. I worked hard and spent time with my little buddies. During that time, we went on many fun road trips visiting sisters and cousins and created great memories we’ll never forget! Here’s my three-pack in 2010 at Yellowstone National Park.

Jenny married the man of her dreams on July 13, 2013, in beautiful Montana. This was a defining moment in my life because I had a real love revelation. She was a single mom, and she was able to find true love again after divorce, so it’s possible for everyone – even me.

The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” The groom’s parents have been married since 1966, and they are still truly, madly deeply in love! At that moment I knew that finding true love was possible, and it was all I needed to get focused and find ways to become the person I wanted to attract.

The first step I took was making a list of everything I wanted to do to help me feel good about myself. I call it My BOSS List. Then, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a husband in the notes in my phone. Then I got busy!

My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up. This is not a great picture, but it’s the only one we have of our actual first date! I was too nervous to snap great selfies! One of his friends texted him during the game asking how it was going, and he sent him this picture. His friend responded, “You’re done.”

Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.

And that he did, my friends. That he did.

I help singles (that means you!) find true love and find the reasons to find love again within themselves. What I practiced and what I focused on between the wedding (July 13, 2013) and my last first date (December 7, 2014) is a strategy! If you want to find love after divorce and attract Mr. Right, you need a strategy to believe it’s possible for you, and a strategy for becoming the person you want to BE. That is what attracts the person you’ve always wanted to be WITH. If I attracted a wonderful husband using these strategies, then you can find love, too!

The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui.  If I finally attracted Mr. Right using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can find love, too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on any tips, inspiration, a little hope, and a lotta love!

"The world is changed by your example, not your opinion." -Paulo Coelho ...

Transformation is DAILY. WORK. There's no finish line, and there’s no magic wand that magically makes all of our limiting negative beliefs and thoughts disappear (unfortunately) LUCKY FOR US, with practice, we can get better! We never have 100% empowering beliefs. I have to practice every day. It's just like getting into shape. Once you get in shape, you can't stop working out. 🤦‍♀️ I know first hand with my covid-10 I gained. (wish it were different)⁠

Here's a quick recap of the strategies for overcoming limiting beliefs and negative thoughts when they creep in (all the time forever) that we talked about at Coffee With Karen Saturday! ⁠

Beliefs are just thoughts we repeat to ourselves over and over. ⁠

The great thing about thoughts is we choose them!⁠ This is the strategy I use all the time and I have to over and over again.

Identify a negative belief, and ask yourself: Is this really true? Think of 3 instances that directly prove it wrong. For instance, If you think nobody cares about what you have to say and no one listens to you, think of 3 specific instances where someone listened. Write them down. You've proved that belief wrong.⁠

When that belief creeps in (your inner bitch) Review your notes. Record your notes in your voice memos in your phone and play them back to you! That’s the truth.

Be patient while you’re retraining your mind. And give yourself some grace if you mess up! Every day is a practice!! ❤️🏋️‍♀️👏🕺🏻

#75hard #aretesyndicate
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"I made my [soulmate] list a few months back after reading that chapter...and I have started seeing someone just like I described!🙂❤" —My AMAZING friend Janet⁠

GUYS! My heart just about exploded when she sent me that text and picture. 😍😭 This is REAL! These strategies WORK! Letting the universe know *exactly* what you want in a dreamy relationship helps you attract *exactly* that. Trust me, and try it sometime. ❤⁠



P.S. If you need a refresher, The Soul Mate List is chapter 4 in my book! It teaches you ALL about what the soul mate list is, how to create one, and how it can be the ultimate catalyst for you to become the best version of yourself. Get my book "Becoming Mrs. Stanley" today through the link in my bio! ❤
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I like. big. butts. and I cannot lie. Said no one. Ever. Until what, 1993ish when that song came out? I especially never uttered those words. I hated my big butt for 4 decades. In the 90's, we didn't have the same definition of the word "thick" that the kids have now. Not one person said big thighs were cool. I've always felt huge. (girl, you huge. Madagascar 😂😂😂)⁠

My belief that was if you weigh more than 100 pounds, you're fat. Hit that number in 5th grade.🖕⁠
My belief FOREVER was that I was so big I should be a boy. My Grandpa actually said that to me. 💪⁠
My belief for decades was that you're not pretty unless you are the lowest you've ever weighed. 😡⁠
That "magic number" is 157, by the way. I starved myself and did 80 minutes of hot yoga every day. I probably burned 1200 calories a day and ate 500. 🙌 Smart.⁠

So, I've had to work very hard to re-wire my beliefs about my body, beliefs about beauty, and had to figure out how to create self-worth and self-confidence. Because NO ONE can do it for you.⁠

Only you can do it. Which is the best news ever!!! We're so lucky we have these incredible minds and we don't have to depend on anyone else! ☘️⁠

Tomorrow morning come have a zoom coffee date with me! We'll be identifying all the limiting beliefs that don't serve you, and we'll be talking about strategies that help you transform them into beliefs that make you a MAGNET for what you want. Not theoretically or some hippie bullshit about meditating for 4 years. Actual strategies that work.⁠
Bring some paper and a pen! I hope to see your beautiful face tomorrow morning! Link in my bio!💕⁠

#coffeewithkaren #transformation #transformingbeliefs #mrskarenstanley #becomingmrsstanley⁠
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You want dating advice? You won't need any advice when you meet the right one. When I started dating John, I didn't ask any of my girlfriends for advice. I just told them I was going to marry him. One friend said "Why are you in such a hurry?" I can't remember what I said, but I was thinking, "In a hurry? I've been waiting 40 years!"⁠
Dating advice: It has nothing to do with THEM.⁠
It's all about you. And your beliefs. ⁠

“Belief is a beautiful armor, but makes for the heaviest sword” I love the analogy “like punching underwater…you never can hit who you’re trying for.” It's from John Mayer's song Belief on My Love Playlist. Our negative, limiting beliefs make it impossible to move forward and attract the life that we really want to live.⁠

Once I transformed my own limiting, negative beliefs about marriage, men, and myself, I got into shape, I was happy for no reason, my relationships got better, I finally attracted Mr. Right, and my income doubled. That’s why I wrote the book. Transforming Beliefs is the longest and MOST IMPORTANT chapter. It's not mumbo jumbo! It’s a strategy; It’s real; It works. 🙏🙏🙏⁠

Learn how to identify and transform your beliefs so you can create the life YOU WANT at Coffee with Karen this Saturday at 10am Pacific! Bring paper and a pencil, & get ready to work!! Join at tiny.cc/coffeewithkaren 💕💕💕
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"The world is changed by your example, not your opinion." -Paulo Coelho ...

Transformation is DAILY. WORK. There's no finish line, and there’s no magic wand that magically makes all of our limiting negative beliefs and thoughts disappear (unfortunately) LUCKY FOR US, with practice, we can get better! We never have 100% empowering beliefs. I have to practice every day. It's just like getting into shape. Once you get in shape, you can't stop working out. 🤦‍♀️ I know first hand with my covid-10 I gained. (wish it were different)⁠

Here's a quick recap of the strategies for overcoming limiting beliefs and negative thoughts when they creep in (all the time forever) that we talked about at Coffee With Karen Saturday! ⁠

Beliefs are just thoughts we repeat to ourselves over and over. ⁠

The great thing about thoughts is we choose them!⁠ This is the strategy I use all the time and I have to over and over again.

Identify a negative belief, and ask yourself: Is this really true? Think of 3 instances that directly prove it wrong. For instance, If you think nobody cares about what you have to say and no one listens to you, think of 3 specific instances where someone listened. Write them down. You've proved that belief wrong.⁠

When that belief creeps in (your inner bitch) Review your notes. Record your notes in your voice memos in your phone and play them back to you! That’s the truth.

Be patient while you’re retraining your mind. And give yourself some grace if you mess up! Every day is a practice!! ❤️🏋️‍♀️👏🕺🏻

#75hard #aretesyndicate
...

"I made my [soulmate] list a few months back after reading that chapter...and I have started seeing someone just like I described!🙂❤" —My AMAZING friend Janet⁠

GUYS! My heart just about exploded when she sent me that text and picture. 😍😭 This is REAL! These strategies WORK! Letting the universe know *exactly* what you want in a dreamy relationship helps you attract *exactly* that. Trust me, and try it sometime. ❤⁠



P.S. If you need a refresher, The Soul Mate List is chapter 4 in my book! It teaches you ALL about what the soul mate list is, how to create one, and how it can be the ultimate catalyst for you to become the best version of yourself. Get my book "Becoming Mrs. Stanley" today through the link in my bio! ❤
...

I like. big. butts. and I cannot lie. Said no one. Ever. Until what, 1993ish when that song came out? I especially never uttered those words. I hated my big butt for 4 decades. In the 90's, we didn't have the same definition of the word "thick" that the kids have now. Not one person said big thighs were cool. I've always felt huge. (girl, you huge. Madagascar 😂😂😂)⁠

My belief that was if you weigh more than 100 pounds, you're fat. Hit that number in 5th grade.🖕⁠
My belief FOREVER was that I was so big I should be a boy. My Grandpa actually said that to me. 💪⁠
My belief for decades was that you're not pretty unless you are the lowest you've ever weighed. 😡⁠
That "magic number" is 157, by the way. I starved myself and did 80 minutes of hot yoga every day. I probably burned 1200 calories a day and ate 500. 🙌 Smart.⁠

So, I've had to work very hard to re-wire my beliefs about my body, beliefs about beauty, and had to figure out how to create self-worth and self-confidence. Because NO ONE can do it for you.⁠

Only you can do it. Which is the best news ever!!! We're so lucky we have these incredible minds and we don't have to depend on anyone else! ☘️⁠

Tomorrow morning come have a zoom coffee date with me! We'll be identifying all the limiting beliefs that don't serve you, and we'll be talking about strategies that help you transform them into beliefs that make you a MAGNET for what you want. Not theoretically or some hippie bullshit about meditating for 4 years. Actual strategies that work.⁠
Bring some paper and a pen! I hope to see your beautiful face tomorrow morning! Link in my bio!💕⁠

#coffeewithkaren #transformation #transformingbeliefs #mrskarenstanley #becomingmrsstanley⁠
...

You want dating advice? You won't need any advice when you meet the right one. When I started dating John, I didn't ask any of my girlfriends for advice. I just told them I was going to marry him. One friend said "Why are you in such a hurry?" I can't remember what I said, but I was thinking, "In a hurry? I've been waiting 40 years!"⁠
Dating advice: It has nothing to do with THEM.⁠
It's all about you. And your beliefs. ⁠

“Belief is a beautiful armor, but makes for the heaviest sword” I love the analogy “like punching underwater…you never can hit who you’re trying for.” It's from John Mayer's song Belief on My Love Playlist. Our negative, limiting beliefs make it impossible to move forward and attract the life that we really want to live.⁠

Once I transformed my own limiting, negative beliefs about marriage, men, and myself, I got into shape, I was happy for no reason, my relationships got better, I finally attracted Mr. Right, and my income doubled. That’s why I wrote the book. Transforming Beliefs is the longest and MOST IMPORTANT chapter. It's not mumbo jumbo! It’s a strategy; It’s real; It works. 🙏🙏🙏⁠

Learn how to identify and transform your beliefs so you can create the life YOU WANT at Coffee with Karen this Saturday at 10am Pacific! Bring paper and a pencil, & get ready to work!! Join at tiny.cc/coffeewithkaren 💕💕💕
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