When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
I realized I wasn’t going to attract an amazing partner unless I felt the same way about myself. So I asked myself, “Why don’t I feel good about myself?” and I made a list of all the things I wanted to improve in six key areas of my life: family, relationships, health, finances, and home. I made small quantifiable goals in each area and worked toward them a little bit each day. I called this My BOSS List.
While I was working toward these goals, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a partner in the notes on my phone. And I revisited it daily — refining, editing, and adding to it as I realized more about myself from the “teachers” in my life. That’s right, your ex’s are your BEST teachers.
My Boss List and My Soulmate List kept me focused on who I needed to BE to attract the life I wanted. Then one day I went to see a business client of mine, John Stanley, and he saw me differently. Because, I WAS DIFFERENT.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui. If I finally attracted the life I always wanted (including Mr. Right) using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on inspirational how-to’s, a little hope and a whole lotta love love.
Made it. ❤️❤️
Boy do I need to hear myself say THIS this week (excerpt from my audiobook "Becoming Mrs. Stanley").
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The elusive self-care. Sort of like a ... unicorn. It doesn't really exist for us mommas. BUT. IT'S. SO. IMPORTANT.
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When we're flying, there's a reason we're supposed to put our mask on before our kids' masks. We can't take care of anyone else if we don't take care of ourselves.
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So why is it so damn hard??!! Why does self-care make me feel guilty (anyone else?)??!!
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I'm going to talk more about this in my blog later this (week because I'm about to head off for some serious self-care), so be sure to take a peek. And in the meantime, let me know your self-care struggles or how you've mastered it.
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Lord knows I could use the support!!
“Everything can wait until I get back.” That’s my motto for the next 6 days. We haven’t taken a real vacation alone since we’ve been together. We’ve been on many epic trips: awesome family trips, work trips, group business trips, growth conferences. But no vacations more than 3 days in Sedona. It’s time! I didn’t even bring my laptop. Gasp! 🎊🎉🙌🥰
We need breaks.
We need the ocean.
Everything can wait until Tuesday.
Everything.
If I say it enough times I’ll believe it. 🤣🥰
Reach. Up. For. The. Sunrise!
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This 🎵 song by @duranduran is all about renewal and hope... something we can all use a little more of these days! Right?! And it's so fun. I saw them in concert when I was as single mom.
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I especially love the lyric: "Only change will bring you out of the darkness."
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Anyone in some darkness today? Work? Relationships? Kids? Life in general? Trust me. You're not alone.
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The good news is that one small change lets the light in. One teeny action. Call one friend, go for one walk, listen to one podcast. Turn on this song...really loud.
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What is an action you take when you're feeling a little blue or having an off day? ❤️
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What if this was your core belief?
The person meant for you is out there working on themselves getting ready for you.
When that inner bitch starts in, spouting your old limiting beliefs like "you're too old" "you're too set in your ways" "You're never going meet anyone." "All the good ones are already taken."
Just breathe. Quiet the mind.
Remind yourself of the actual truth.
If it's possible for one, it's possible for everyone.
If John can find love at almost 60, then anyone can at any age.
Humans are not solitary creature. We were meant to have a partner, have love and companionship. It's meant to be.
Therefore, your soul mate is on their way to you right now.
They could be at the Starbucks down the street.
They could be across the country moving to your neighborhood next month.
They are definitely on their way.
Just practice quieting your mind and repeating the truth.
If it's in your heart, it's meant to be. It's happening right now.
You don't get to decide when.
You get to focus on your own growth.
That's it!
Now go back to being awesome!
Love you! 😍
Big changes for the Stanley household! We have less than three weeks to find somewhere to live for three months, pack up, and move ‘em out! New house will be done in November! So freaking excited!!! 🎊🎉👏 #aretesyndicate #dreambig #goals
Made it. ❤️❤️
Boy do I need to hear myself say THIS this week (excerpt from my audiobook "Becoming Mrs. Stanley").
-
The elusive self-care. Sort of like a ... unicorn. It doesn't really exist for us mommas. BUT. IT'S. SO. IMPORTANT.
-
When we're flying, there's a reason we're supposed to put our mask on before our kids' masks. We can't take care of anyone else if we don't take care of ourselves.
-
So why is it so damn hard??!! Why does self-care make me feel guilty (anyone else?)??!!
-
I'm going to talk more about this in my blog later this (week because I'm about to head off for some serious self-care), so be sure to take a peek. And in the meantime, let me know your self-care struggles or how you've mastered it.
-
Lord knows I could use the support!!
“Everything can wait until I get back.” That’s my motto for the next 6 days. We haven’t taken a real vacation alone since we’ve been together. We’ve been on many epic trips: awesome family trips, work trips, group business trips, growth conferences. But no vacations more than 3 days in Sedona. It’s time! I didn’t even bring my laptop. Gasp! 🎊🎉🙌🥰
We need breaks.
We need the ocean.
Everything can wait until Tuesday.
Everything.
If I say it enough times I’ll believe it. 🤣🥰
Reach. Up. For. The. Sunrise!
-
This 🎵 song by @duranduran is all about renewal and hope... something we can all use a little more of these days! Right?! And it's so fun. I saw them in concert when I was as single mom.
-
I especially love the lyric: "Only change will bring you out of the darkness."
-
Anyone in some darkness today? Work? Relationships? Kids? Life in general? Trust me. You're not alone.
-
The good news is that one small change lets the light in. One teeny action. Call one friend, go for one walk, listen to one podcast. Turn on this song...really loud.
-
What is an action you take when you're feeling a little blue or having an off day? ❤️
-
#becomingmrsstanley #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply #myloveplaylist
What if this was your core belief?
The person meant for you is out there working on themselves getting ready for you.
When that inner bitch starts in, spouting your old limiting beliefs like "you're too old" "you're too set in your ways" "You're never going meet anyone." "All the good ones are already taken."
Just breathe. Quiet the mind.
Remind yourself of the actual truth.
If it's possible for one, it's possible for everyone.
If John can find love at almost 60, then anyone can at any age.
Humans are not solitary creature. We were meant to have a partner, have love and companionship. It's meant to be.
Therefore, your soul mate is on their way to you right now.
They could be at the Starbucks down the street.
They could be across the country moving to your neighborhood next month.
They are definitely on their way.
Just practice quieting your mind and repeating the truth.
If it's in your heart, it's meant to be. It's happening right now.
You don't get to decide when.
You get to focus on your own growth.
That's it!
Now go back to being awesome!
Love you! 😍
Big changes for the Stanley household! We have less than three weeks to find somewhere to live for three months, pack up, and move ‘em out! New house will be done in November! So freaking excited!!! 🎊🎉👏 #aretesyndicate #dreambig #goals
