When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
I realized I wasn’t going to attract an amazing partner unless I felt the same way about myself. So I asked myself, “Why don’t I feel good about myself?” and I made a list of all the things I wanted to improve in six key areas of my life: family, relationships, health, finances, and home. I made small quantifiable goals in each area and worked toward them a little bit each day. I called this My BOSS List.
While I was working toward these goals, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a partner in the notes on my phone. And I revisited it daily — refining, editing, and adding to it as I realized more about myself from the “teachers” in my life. That’s right, your ex’s are your BEST teachers.
My Boss List and My Soulmate List kept me focused on who I needed to BE to attract the life I wanted. Then one day I went to see a business client of mine, John Stanley, and he saw me differently. Because, I WAS DIFFERENT.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui. If I finally attracted the life I always wanted (including Mr. Right) using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on inspirational how-to’s, a little hope and a whole lotta love love.
Who says green grass is amazing anyway?
I’d rather have a jacuzzi and skip the yard work. 😂😂
Create what you want in your life no matter who else is doing whatever else. 🤍🤍🤍
I went to see Sting instead of going to my senior prom. So how could "Fortress Around Your Heart" NOT make it on My Love Playlist??? My 2 sisters and I rented a car, drove to Dallas (which was five hours away), went to see the concert, and drove all night home… Well, they drove and I slept in the backseat! It was my first concert and SUCH an epic day!
Sting is one of the greatest writers EVAH, and this song was inspired by his divorce from his first wife. Imagine for a moment that you're the narrator in this story—"Under the ruins of a walled city, Crumbling towers and beams of yellow lights." You're in a warzone of a relationship, stunned at the damage that was done, stopping out of fear 🎵walking on the mines I laid. You've realized that it's time for the battle to end, for a bridge of resolution to be built, and the weapons of war to be burned.
No matter where you are on the relationship spectrum (in one, out of one, totally never want one ever again, wanting-to-want-one-eventually), I think we've all got healing and bridges to build. Build that bridge first with yourself or you're currently building one to another person, you can "fill the chasm" with love from within, and know that you have the power to stop the war and build a bridge to a new future. It may be a little scary but healing is an everyday journey...one small step at a time. Set those battlements on fire! (I LOVE THIS SONG IF YOU CAN'T TELL!) Link in bio!
Anyone else suffer from "Mistake Replay Syndrome?" You do something you wish you hadn't or say something stupid and that "movie clip" keeps replaying in your brain over and over again?
Me neither.
When my brain wants to keep punishing me for a mistake or stupid moment, I think of an action I can take that will help me shift my thoughts from the past to the present. Turn on a podcast, call my mom, do some slow deep breaths.
What are you go-tos for staying in the present moment?
Sisters. ♥️ Do we have the same nose?
What does "success" mean to you?
“Success” is a tricky word because most people associate success with money. But I know plenty of wealthy people who are miserable. What does "success" look like to you?
When you’re a married mom or a single mom, navigating a doozy of a year like we just had, success may be just a freakin' bath at the end of the day, amiright? So, how do you set yourself up for success [ful bath] 😂😂?
I jotted down my top 6 things that help me the most. Head to the link in my bio to read my latest blog post 💕
Happy Friday!!!
Think about it. Everything we have read, listened to, and watched has formed our beliefs up until this point. And everything we have created and accomplished in our lives started with a thought…a belief that it was possible. Your home, your job, your career change, your car, your business.
When I get discouraged and have setbacks, I devour books, podcasts, YouTube videos, and music from my Love Playlist that helps me feel empowered and helped me get closer to becoming the person I wanted to become. Still do.
So if what you want to create and attract is a partner in life, you have to cultivate the beliefs that love exists, amazing single people are everywhere, and you deserve to have an awesome marriage if that’s what you want. Everything we listen to and read either helps us get closer to our dreams and helps us believe that they are possible, or not.
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This week's love playlist addition is an oldie but so a goodie. Listen to "Power of Love/Love Power" on Spotify at the link in my bio. ❤️
Who says green grass is amazing anyway?
I’d rather have a jacuzzi and skip the yard work. 😂😂
Create what you want in your life no matter who else is doing whatever else. 🤍🤍🤍
I went to see Sting instead of going to my senior prom. So how could "Fortress Around Your Heart" NOT make it on My Love Playlist??? My 2 sisters and I rented a car, drove to Dallas (which was five hours away), went to see the concert, and drove all night home… Well, they drove and I slept in the backseat! It was my first concert and SUCH an epic day!
Sting is one of the greatest writers EVAH, and this song was inspired by his divorce from his first wife. Imagine for a moment that you're the narrator in this story—"Under the ruins of a walled city, Crumbling towers and beams of yellow lights." You're in a warzone of a relationship, stunned at the damage that was done, stopping out of fear 🎵walking on the mines I laid. You've realized that it's time for the battle to end, for a bridge of resolution to be built, and the weapons of war to be burned.
No matter where you are on the relationship spectrum (in one, out of one, totally never want one ever again, wanting-to-want-one-eventually), I think we've all got healing and bridges to build. Build that bridge first with yourself or you're currently building one to another person, you can "fill the chasm" with love from within, and know that you have the power to stop the war and build a bridge to a new future. It may be a little scary but healing is an everyday journey...one small step at a time. Set those battlements on fire! (I LOVE THIS SONG IF YOU CAN'T TELL!) Link in bio!
Anyone else suffer from "Mistake Replay Syndrome?" You do something you wish you hadn't or say something stupid and that "movie clip" keeps replaying in your brain over and over again?
Me neither.
When my brain wants to keep punishing me for a mistake or stupid moment, I think of an action I can take that will help me shift my thoughts from the past to the present. Turn on a podcast, call my mom, do some slow deep breaths.
What are you go-tos for staying in the present moment?
Sisters. ♥️ Do we have the same nose?
What does "success" mean to you?
“Success” is a tricky word because most people associate success with money. But I know plenty of wealthy people who are miserable. What does "success" look like to you?
When you’re a married mom or a single mom, navigating a doozy of a year like we just had, success may be just a freakin' bath at the end of the day, amiright? So, how do you set yourself up for success [ful bath] 😂😂?
I jotted down my top 6 things that help me the most. Head to the link in my bio to read my latest blog post 💕
Happy Friday!!!
Think about it. Everything we have read, listened to, and watched has formed our beliefs up until this point. And everything we have created and accomplished in our lives started with a thought…a belief that it was possible. Your home, your job, your career change, your car, your business.
When I get discouraged and have setbacks, I devour books, podcasts, YouTube videos, and music from my Love Playlist that helps me feel empowered and helped me get closer to becoming the person I wanted to become. Still do.
So if what you want to create and attract is a partner in life, you have to cultivate the beliefs that love exists, amazing single people are everywhere, and you deserve to have an awesome marriage if that’s what you want. Everything we listen to and read either helps us get closer to our dreams and helps us believe that they are possible, or not.
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This week's love playlist addition is an oldie but so a goodie. Listen to "Power of Love/Love Power" on Spotify at the link in my bio. ❤️
