When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
I realized I wasn’t going to attract an amazing partner unless I felt the same way about myself. So I asked myself, “Why don’t I feel good about myself?” and I made a list of all the things I wanted to improve in six key areas of my life: family, relationships, health, finances, and home. I made small quantifiable goals in each area and worked toward them a little bit each day. I called this My BOSS List.
While I was working toward these goals, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a partner in the notes on my phone. And I revisited it daily — refining, editing, and adding to it as I realized more about myself from the “teachers” in my life. That’s right, your ex’s are your BEST teachers.
My Boss List and My Soulmate List kept me focused on who I needed to BE to attract the life I wanted. Then one day I went to see a business client of mine, John Stanley, and he saw me differently. Because, I WAS DIFFERENT.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui. If I finally attracted the life I always wanted (including Mr. Right) using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on inspirational how-to’s, a little hope and a whole lotta love love.
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Epic birth-weekend so far! I hit Level 46 today! Thank you so much for all the birthday wishes! 🙏❤️🎉 I am so blessed.
Think of your greatest memories. I bet most of them started as a dream. Everything amazing in your life that has already happened started as a thought first.
So why don't we work toward creating more memories? And how do we do that?
And why is a relationship dream any different than any other dream or goal? (It's not.)
Seeing our dreams become reality is one of the best ways to create joy and fulfillment. Working toward a dream or goal or vision is how we feel good!! We create our own self worth by making progress toward something we really want to create in our lives.
This week's blog post talks ALL about how to make our dreams become our reality so we can feel good and create the life we've always wanted. Read it by clicking the link in my bio!
The most important thing to bring to a relationship is self-worth. ♥️
My new book cover is live on Amazon!!! 🎉💃🙌 Thanks so much for your help! I changed the cover because my book is not about the wedding.
It’s about creating the life you want and becoming the person you want to become, and THAT’S HOW you attract the partner you’ve always wanted! These strategies worked for me, and they can work for your friends or family members who are single and keep attracting all the wrong partners. I know how that goes. Did that for YEARS. My strategies broke my toxic relationship cycle!
PS if you have a copy of the book with the original cover, you might want to hang onto it. It might be a collector’s item someday. 😂😂😂😂😂 Hey, you never know.
If you want to grab the latest edition, check out the link in my bio!
Your current beliefs are just thoughts on repeat.
Those beliefs were created from the PAST experiences, and your PAST relationships do not determine your FUTURE relationships. YOU create your future relationships! 🙌
I didn't believe an amazing relationship was possible for me. I didn't even think "amazing" and "man" could be in the same sentence. For. Years. The thoughts on repeat in my head (beliefs) were that I was broken, too loud, too "much", too damaged, too...everything. I hate men, marriage sucks, men suck, I'd rather be alone, and ohhhh baby, I could go on and on for HOURS. Especially if there was wine involved.
PS Why does wine always turn into WHINE?
I digress...🥴
But I knew I had to cultivate the belief that mw dreams WERE possible in order to create the life I wanted. So, I created tools to help me do that. One tool is music. With lyrics that helped me believe in attracting real love. I mean, someone wrote this song about another person:
"If I die in your arms it's right where I'm supposed to be"
Who DOESN'T want a relationship like that? Hell yeah I want to feel that way about someone. If it's possible for this one person who wrote this song, then it's possible for all of us. Use TOOLS to help you create new beliefs. So your new thoughts that repeat could be: It is possible to create the life and the relationship I want, I do deserve it, and there is a person out there who is perfect for me who is looking for someone just. like. me. 💪
Your vision for your dream relationship exists because it was meant to be for you. And it is unique to you and the person meant for you will have the same vision! Any time your brain wants to press play on an old belief, press play on my love playlist. It seriously helps. I put it on Spotify for YOU!💕
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Epic birth-weekend so far! I hit Level 46 today! Thank you so much for all the birthday wishes! 🙏❤️🎉 I am so blessed.
Think of your greatest memories. I bet most of them started as a dream. Everything amazing in your life that has already happened started as a thought first.
So why don't we work toward creating more memories? And how do we do that?
And why is a relationship dream any different than any other dream or goal? (It's not.)
Seeing our dreams become reality is one of the best ways to create joy and fulfillment. Working toward a dream or goal or vision is how we feel good!! We create our own self worth by making progress toward something we really want to create in our lives.
This week's blog post talks ALL about how to make our dreams become our reality so we can feel good and create the life we've always wanted. Read it by clicking the link in my bio!
The most important thing to bring to a relationship is self-worth. ♥️
My new book cover is live on Amazon!!! 🎉💃🙌 Thanks so much for your help! I changed the cover because my book is not about the wedding.
It’s about creating the life you want and becoming the person you want to become, and THAT’S HOW you attract the partner you’ve always wanted! These strategies worked for me, and they can work for your friends or family members who are single and keep attracting all the wrong partners. I know how that goes. Did that for YEARS. My strategies broke my toxic relationship cycle!
PS if you have a copy of the book with the original cover, you might want to hang onto it. It might be a collector’s item someday. 😂😂😂😂😂 Hey, you never know.
If you want to grab the latest edition, check out the link in my bio!
Your current beliefs are just thoughts on repeat.
Those beliefs were created from the PAST experiences, and your PAST relationships do not determine your FUTURE relationships. YOU create your future relationships! 🙌
I didn't believe an amazing relationship was possible for me. I didn't even think "amazing" and "man" could be in the same sentence. For. Years. The thoughts on repeat in my head (beliefs) were that I was broken, too loud, too "much", too damaged, too...everything. I hate men, marriage sucks, men suck, I'd rather be alone, and ohhhh baby, I could go on and on for HOURS. Especially if there was wine involved.
PS Why does wine always turn into WHINE?
I digress...🥴
But I knew I had to cultivate the belief that mw dreams WERE possible in order to create the life I wanted. So, I created tools to help me do that. One tool is music. With lyrics that helped me believe in attracting real love. I mean, someone wrote this song about another person:
"If I die in your arms it's right where I'm supposed to be"
Who DOESN'T want a relationship like that? Hell yeah I want to feel that way about someone. If it's possible for this one person who wrote this song, then it's possible for all of us. Use TOOLS to help you create new beliefs. So your new thoughts that repeat could be: It is possible to create the life and the relationship I want, I do deserve it, and there is a person out there who is perfect for me who is looking for someone just. like. me. 💪
Your vision for your dream relationship exists because it was meant to be for you. And it is unique to you and the person meant for you will have the same vision! Any time your brain wants to press play on an old belief, press play on my love playlist. It seriously helps. I put it on Spotify for YOU!💕
