When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
A defining moment in my life? Watching my friend (who was also a single mom) with a look of true happiness as she married the man of her dreams .
The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years, and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” As I cried, I asked myself, “What does she have that I don’t?”
Self-worth.
At that moment I knew I needed to change my limiting negative beliefs about myself and about relationships and focus on becoming the person I really wanted to be.
I realized I wasn’t going to attract an amazing partner unless I felt the same way about myself. So I asked myself, “Why don’t I feel good about myself?” and I made a list of all the things I wanted to improve in six key areas of my life: family, relationships, health, finances, and home. I made small quantifiable goals in each area and worked toward them a little bit each day. I called this My BOSS List.
While I was working toward these goals, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a partner in the notes on my phone. And I revisited it daily — refining, editing, and adding to it as I realized more about myself from the “teachers” in my life. That’s right, your ex’s are your BEST teachers.
My Boss List and My Soulmate List kept me focused on who I needed to BE to attract the life I wanted. Then one day I went to see a business client of mine, John Stanley, and he saw me differently. Because, I WAS DIFFERENT.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up.
Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.
The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui. If I finally attracted the life I always wanted (including Mr. Right) using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on inspirational how-to’s, a little hope and a whole lotta love love.
The best revenge is no revenge at all.
Live your best life.
Love everyone.
Make progress toward your goals.
#winning
#lovewins
Do you think you need to be someone "perfect" to attract love? I call it the #RunawayBride syndrome. Julia Roberts' character can't answer a simple question, "How do you like your eggs?"
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I did that. Changing what I like to do and morphing in to the person "they" wanted. If we act like we like what they like ... forever love is inevitable. Right?
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uh, nope. Take it from me.
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I spent decades being agreeable. Until I figured out I didn't need to be any different than who I am (in my audiobook, I lay out the strategies that helped me).
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What beliefs do you struggle with that are holding you back?
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#lifelessons #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
"There MUST be a higher love."
We have to get from the place of we "wish for" something or "want" something to "IT MUST BE TRUE FOR ME." All those years single, all those "horrible" dates, all the lies I was told, all those disappointments "proved" the beliefs I had that men were the worst.
How do you get from not believing to believing? Daily work. Transforming beliefs to IT MUST BE TRUE FOR ME. Getting clear on what you ARE ATTRACTING, and listening my love playlist.
I grew up with the @SteveWinwood version of this song. Love it. One of the greats. (He wrote it) Then a few years ago I stumbled onto @jamesvmcmorrow version. Did you know there's another recording with Whitney Houston and @Kygomusic? 🤯🤯Mind blown! When did she record that?? I miss Whitney. Talk about the greatest of all greats. I'm adding ALLL versions to my playlist.
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Higher love. The kind that lasts a lifetime. The kind I didn't think actually existed - until I did. Only then did I attract it.
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Keep the love flowing, positive vibes going, lyrics going in your ears!! 🎵 My Love Playlist ❤️ 🎵 is on @spotify and let me know songs I should add!
https://mrskarenstanley.com/higher-love-by-james-vincent-mcmorrow-my-love-playlist/
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#becomingmrsstanley #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply #myloveplaylist
I felt that one.
Working on being a better example. ❤️
Are your limiting beliefs holding you back? The way you think about divorce recovery is more important than you know, and it takes time.
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If you want to move forward, release the pain, anger and frustration, gain back your confidence and start forgiving yourself this is a summit you DO NOT want to miss!
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Join me and 6 other speakers at the "7 Steps to Divorce Recovery Summit: Reclaim Your Identity, Increase Your Confidence and Commit to Creating a Life You Choose!" It launches Monday, June 7th at 9am PT / 12pm ET and concludes on Sunday, June 13th. I am speaking about your limiting beliefs that are holding you back, and how you can get out of your own way!
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I am offering you a FREE TICKET to attend as my guest! REGISTER TODAY! LINK IN BIO! 👏👏
https://www.wendysterling.net/divorcerecoverysummit
What do you REALLY believe about yourself? What we believe shapes our entire life. It impacts our confidence, our self worth, our happiness, whether we attract healthy love, or believe we won't.
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I see our learned beliefs as a cycle:
1️⃣ An event happens
2️⃣ We create a thought about it
3️⃣ We create the story from the thought
4️⃣ We repeat the story over and over and over again
5️⃣ It becomes our belief
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Beliefs can be hard to change (if you believe that😂😂) or, you can believe that creating empowering new beliefs is fun and will change your life!! Learn how in my latest blog. Link in Bio!
Have you had negative beliefs you've overcome?
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#lifelessons #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #beliefs
The best revenge is no revenge at all.
Live your best life.
Love everyone.
Make progress toward your goals.
#winning
#lovewins
Do you think you need to be someone "perfect" to attract love? I call it the #RunawayBride syndrome. Julia Roberts' character can't answer a simple question, "How do you like your eggs?"
-
I did that. Changing what I like to do and morphing in to the person "they" wanted. If we act like we like what they like ... forever love is inevitable. Right?
-
uh, nope. Take it from me.
-
I spent decades being agreeable. Until I figured out I didn't need to be any different than who I am (in my audiobook, I lay out the strategies that helped me).
-
What beliefs do you struggle with that are holding you back?
-
#lifelessons #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth
"There MUST be a higher love."
We have to get from the place of we "wish for" something or "want" something to "IT MUST BE TRUE FOR ME." All those years single, all those "horrible" dates, all the lies I was told, all those disappointments "proved" the beliefs I had that men were the worst.
How do you get from not believing to believing? Daily work. Transforming beliefs to IT MUST BE TRUE FOR ME. Getting clear on what you ARE ATTRACTING, and listening my love playlist.
I grew up with the @SteveWinwood version of this song. Love it. One of the greats. (He wrote it) Then a few years ago I stumbled onto @jamesvmcmorrow version. Did you know there's another recording with Whitney Houston and @Kygomusic? 🤯🤯Mind blown! When did she record that?? I miss Whitney. Talk about the greatest of all greats. I'm adding ALLL versions to my playlist.
-
Higher love. The kind that lasts a lifetime. The kind I didn't think actually existed - until I did. Only then did I attract it.
-
Keep the love flowing, positive vibes going, lyrics going in your ears!! 🎵 My Love Playlist ❤️ 🎵 is on @spotify and let me know songs I should add!
https://mrskarenstanley.com/higher-love-by-james-vincent-mcmorrow-my-love-playlist/
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#becomingmrsstanley #createlovetoday #ultimatelovestrategy #tuesdaytunes #tuesdaythoughts #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #lovedeeply #myloveplaylist
I felt that one.
Working on being a better example. ❤️
Are your limiting beliefs holding you back? The way you think about divorce recovery is more important than you know, and it takes time.
-
If you want to move forward, release the pain, anger and frustration, gain back your confidence and start forgiving yourself this is a summit you DO NOT want to miss!
-
Join me and 6 other speakers at the "7 Steps to Divorce Recovery Summit: Reclaim Your Identity, Increase Your Confidence and Commit to Creating a Life You Choose!" It launches Monday, June 7th at 9am PT / 12pm ET and concludes on Sunday, June 13th. I am speaking about your limiting beliefs that are holding you back, and how you can get out of your own way!
-
I am offering you a FREE TICKET to attend as my guest! REGISTER TODAY! LINK IN BIO! 👏👏
https://www.wendysterling.net/divorcerecoverysummit
What do you REALLY believe about yourself? What we believe shapes our entire life. It impacts our confidence, our self worth, our happiness, whether we attract healthy love, or believe we won't.
-
I see our learned beliefs as a cycle:
1️⃣ An event happens
2️⃣ We create a thought about it
3️⃣ We create the story from the thought
4️⃣ We repeat the story over and over and over again
5️⃣ It becomes our belief
-
Beliefs can be hard to change (if you believe that😂😂) or, you can believe that creating empowering new beliefs is fun and will change your life!! Learn how in my latest blog. Link in Bio!
Have you had negative beliefs you've overcome?
-
#lifelessons #createlovetoday #createtoday #relationshipgoals #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #selfworth #beliefs
