I didn’t believe an amazing relationship was possible for me. I didn’t even think “amazing” and “man” could be in the same sentence. For. Years. The thoughts that I allowed to repeat in my head (beliefs) were that I was broken, too loud, too “much”, too damaged, too…everything. I hate men, marriage sucks, men suck, I’d rather be alone, yada yada blah blah on and on and on. Any of those sound familiar? But I knew we have to cultivate the belief that our dreams ARE possible in order to create the life we want. So, I created tools to help me do that. One tool is music. I mean, someone wrote this song about another person. “If I die in your arms it’s right where I’m supposed to be?”  Who doesn’t want a relationship like that? Hell yeah I want to feel that way about someone. If it’s possible for this amazing lyricist, then it’s possible for all of us. Use tools to help you create new beliefs. So the new thoughts that repeat are: It is possible to create the life and the relationship I want, I do deserve it, and there is a person out there who is perfect for me who is looking for someone just like me. Listen to my love playlist on Spotify and drown out the doubt and the negative beliefs you have about relationships. Those beliefs were created from the PAST, and your past relationship does not determine your future relationship. You create your future relationships. Your vision for your dream relationship exists because it was meant to be for you. And it is unique to you and the person meant for you will have the same vision! Try repeating that thought every time your brain wants to press play on an old belief! What you dream about is what is meant to be for you.

Even though my dream actually is to travel all over Europe

with my love and my family someday, what I really wanted was to have a husband say to me “we fell in love and we built a home though we may never see the streets of Rome.” I wanted someone to build a home with and build a life with, even if we didn’t go to Rome. Using strategies such as listening exclusively to positive music that reinforced that real love was possible helped me transform my beliefs about relationships and marriage. I created this to share with you so you could do the same.

It’s not an overnight process, but over time, your beliefs can change!

I believe it. Even if you don’t right now, I do. I believe that each of us deserve a partner who loves us and cherishes us and adores us. Exactly the way we are. I believe that we are meant to have a partner and companion who is our lover and our best friend and biggest supporter. I didn’t always believe this. So if my beliefs can change, and in changing those beliefs, I can attract the partner I’ve always wanted, why can’t it be so for every woman? Even damaged, broken, divorced, bankrupt, single women raising two kids alone like I was?

Things that make you go hmmmmmm….

Wishing you lots of love,

xoxoxoxox

Karen

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